It's Ok Not to Share and Other Renegade Rules for Raising Competent and Compassionate Kids

By Heather Shumaker
Parenting can be such an overwhelming job that it's easy to lose track of where you stand on some of the more controversial subjects at the playground (What if my kid likes to rough house--isn't this ok as long as no one gets hurt? And what if my kid just doesn't feel like sharing?). In this inspiring and enlightening book, Heather Shumaker describes her quest to nail down "the rules" to raising smart, sensitive, and self-sufficient kids. Drawing on her own experiences as the mother of two small children, as well as on the work of child psychologists, pediatricians, educators and so on, in this book Shumaker gets to the heart of the matter on a host of important questions. Hint: many of the rules aren't what you think they are!

The "rules" in this book focus on the toddler and preschool years--an important time for laying the foundation for competent and compassionate older kids and then adults. Here are a few of the rules:

- It's OK if it's not hurting people or property
- Bombs, guns and bad guys allowed.
- Boys can wear tutus.
- Pictures don't have to be pretty.
- Paint off the paper!
- Sex ed starts in preschool
- Kids don't have to say "Sorry."
- Love your kid's lies.

IT'S OK NOT TO SHARE is an essential resource for any parent hoping to avoid PLAYDATEGATE (i.e. your child's behavior in a social interaction with another child clearly doesn't meet with another parent's approval)!

"Rarely do parenting books trigger in me an exhale. But the title alone for Heather Shumaker s new book came like that rare August breeze." "The Washington Post" "On Parenting" "An insightful, sensible and compassionate book full of downright revolutionary ideas." "Brilliant. . . . "It's OK Not to Share" is an enlightening book that will make you take a second look at everything you believe." "Did you read the title and think, "what the heck? "Me, too. Not only did I read it to figure out the title, I underlined about a third it's that good." Melissa Taylor, "What an amazing book! [Shumaker] challenge[s] the parenting myths and fallacies that our society has embraced for so long." Provider Resource Organization "A breath of fresh air." Jane Pratt, founder of "These 'renegade rules' will resonate with what you know to be true, speak to what you want most for your children, and teach you how to achieve it. Don't let this one slip off your reading list." Dr. Becky Bailey, author of "Conscious Discipline "and "Easy to Love, Difficult to Discipline" "This beautifully written book. . . provides immediate, sanity-saving answers to tough parenting questions. I highly recommend it." Michael Gurian, author of"The Wonder of Boys "and "The Good Son" "From 'Bombs, Guns, and Bad Guys Allowed' to '"I Hate You!" Is Nothing Personal, ' the table of contents alone is music to my ears. Heather Shumaker is a healthy mom Ican relate to and I'll bet you will too, when you hear out her logic." Paula Spencer Scott, author of "Momfidence!" "A refreshing change from the usual admonitions. . . Shumaker's Renegade Rules are based on what children really need." Lawrence J. Cohen, author of "Playful Parenting" "Shumaker beautifully shows us why letting kids be kids may be the single most important thing we can do as parents." Anthony T. DeBenedet, M.D. coauthor of "The Art of Roughhousing" "A must-read for parents and teachers. This is a book you will want with you all the time." Daniel Hodgins, author of "Boys: Changing the Classroom, Not the Child" "A no-nonsense commonsense appraoch. . . As you read this book, you will begin to feel the stress of parenting melt away." Vivian Kirkfield,"


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ISBN: 9781585429363

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Publisher Tarcherperigee
Publish date 08/02/2012
Pages 378
ISBN-13 9781585429363
ISBN-10 1585429368
Language English

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