Text Me When You Get Home: The Evolution and Triumph of Modern Female Friendship

By Kayleen Schaefer, Kayleen Schaeffer
A personal and sociological examination--and ultimately a celebration--of the evolution of female friendship in pop culture and modern society

"Text me when you get home." After joyful nights out together, female friends say this to one another as a way of cementing their love. It's about safety; but more than that, it's about solidarity.

From Broad City to Big Little Lies to what women say about their own best friends, the stories we're telling about female friendship have changed. What used to be written off as infighting between mean girls or disposable relationships that would be tossed as soon as a guy came along are no longer described like that. Now, we're lifting up our female friendships to the same level as our other important relationships, saying they matter just as much as the bonds we have with our romantic partners, children, parents, or siblings.

Journalist Kayleen Schaefer relays her journey of modern female friendship: from being a competitive teenager to trying to be one of the guys in the workplace to ultimately awakening to the power of female friendship and the soulmates, girl squads, and chosen families that come with it.

Schaefer has put together a completely new sociological perspective on the way we see our friends today, one that includes interviews with dozens of other women across the country: historians, creators of the most iconic films and television shows about female friendship (and Galentine's Day!), celebrities, authors, and other experts. The end result is a validation of female friendship that's never existed before.

Advance Praise for Text Me When You Get Home

"[A] witty, deep memoir [that] digs into the power and the glory of female friendships...Where to start unpacking the good news that Kayleen Schaefer broadcasts in her timely, nimble, essential memoir...Every page of this book has something valuable to impart about the necessity of fostering female bonds and tending them with the same care we give to our relationships with family, spouses, and children." --Elle

"Reading Text Me When You Get Home feels like experiencing its subject--the intimate, slow-burning, miraculously comfortable thrill of making and keeping a lifelong friend. Kayleen Schaefer's affectionate and clear-sighted exploration of female friendship is as romantic as a movie and as honest as the conversation on the third day of a road trip; reading it is as delightful as walking into a bar on a weeknight to see your friend already seated and ordering your drink."--Jia Tolentino, staff writer at The New Yorker

"A hopeful celebration of women's friendships."--Kirkus Reviews

"I was deeply moved by this book. I cried and I laughed. I recognized myself in it. I felt raised up and also challenged. It felt like a delicious, long overdue conversation with a best friend I didn't know I had. I will be giving this book to all my girlfriends."--Lennon Parham, creator, writer and star of Best Friends Forever and Playing House "Warning: this absolutely delightful and insightful book on the immense power of female friendship will make you book a trip to visit your college best friend immediately. You might even buy Beyonce tickets. It's that good."--Jessica St. Clair, creator, writer and star of Best Friends Forever and Playing House "Here's a book to devour in two sittings....Readers of all generations will enjoy her engaging writing and may see their own friendships reflected in her stories."--Booklist

"This in-depth look into the evolution of female friendship is one all women will benefit from this year."--Working Mother


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ISBN: 9781101986127

About the Hardcover

Publisher Dutton Books
Publish date 02/06/2018
Pages 288
ISBN-13 9781101986127
ISBN-10 1101986123
Language English

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