Text Me When You Get Home: The Evolution and Triumph of Modern Female Friendship

By Kayleen Schaefer, Kayleen Schaeffer
"Text Me has the thrills and laughs of a romantic comedy, but with an inverted message: 'There just isn't only one love story in our lives, ' Schaefer writes. If you're lucky, friends will be the protagonists in these multiple love stories. It's high time that we start seeing it that way."--NPR, 2018's Great Reads

A personal and sociological examination--and ultimately a celebration--of the evolution of female friendship in pop culture and modern society

For too long, women have been told that we are terrible at being friends, that we can't help being cruel or competitive, or that we inevitably abandon each other for romantic partners. But we are rejecting those stereotypes and reclaiming the power of female friendship.

In Text Me When You Get Home, journalist Kayleen Schaefer interviews more than one hundred women about their BFFs, soulmates, girl gangs, and queens while tracing this cultural shift through the lens of pop culture. Our love for each other is reflected in Abbi and Ilana, Issa and Molly, #squadgoals, the acclaim of Girls Trip and Big Little Lies, and Galentine's Day.

Schaefer also includes her own history of grappling with a world that told her to rely on men before she realized that her true source of support came from a strong tribe of women. Her personal narrative and celebration of her own relationships weaves throughout the evolution of female friendship on-screen, a serious look at how women have come to value one another and our relationships.

Text Me When You Get Home is a validation that has never existed before. A thoughtful, heart-soaring, deeply reported look at how women are taking a stand for their friendships and not letting go.

Advance Praise for Text Me When You Get Home

"[A] witty, deep memoir [that] digs into the power and the glory of female friendships...Where to start unpacking the good news that Kayleen Schaefer broadcasts in her timely, nimble, essential memoir...Every page of this book has something valuable to impart about the necessity of fostering female bonds and tending them with the same care we give to our relationships with family, spouses, and children." --Elle

"Reading Text Me When You Get Home feels like experiencing its subject--the intimate, slow-burning, miraculously comfortable thrill of making and keeping a lifelong friend. Kayleen Schaefer's affectionate and clear-sighted exploration of female friendship is as romantic as a movie and as honest as the conversation on the third day of a road trip; reading it is as delightful as walking into a bar on a weeknight to see your friend already seated and ordering your drink."--Jia Tolentino, staff writer at The New Yorker

"A hopeful celebration of women's friendships."--Kirkus Reviews

"I was deeply moved by this book. I cried and I laughed. I recognized myself in it. I felt raised up and also challenged. It felt like a delicious, long overdue conversation with a best friend I didn't know I had. I will be giving this book to all my girlfriends."--Lennon Parham, creator, writer and star of Best Friends Forever and Playing House "Warning: this absolutely delightful and insightful book on the immense power of female friendship will make you book a trip to visit your college best friend immediately. You might even buy Beyonce tickets. It's that good."--Jessica St. Clair, creator, writer and star of Best Friends Forever and Playing House "Here's a book to devour in two sittings....Readers of all generations will enjoy her engaging writing and may see their own friendships reflected in her stories."--Booklist

"This in-depth look into the evolution of female friendship is one all women will benefit from this year."--Working Mother


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Publisher Not available
Publish date 02/06/2018
Pages 288
ISBN-13 9781101986127
ISBN-10 1101986123
Language English

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